This city is an amazing place to be in love. Little cozy cafés on every corner, beautiful parks to stroll through, small apartments to cuddle up in; there are endless possibilities for romance in New York. It’s finding “love” that seems to be a pain in the ass.
I have some single, attractive, shag worthy friends who can’t seem to find a partner and it baffles me. They put themselves out there, they’re open to love, they have their shit together, but they find themselves stuck in the exhaustive hunt for a mate. It’s tough even with all the tools out there to help facilitate a love connection. The many craftily named dot coms that entice you with those soft focus commercials of a newlywed couple hugging and bowling, or the ever so progressive niche sites that only unite people of the same faith. Yet with all that, it still seems like an incredibly daunting task that, overtime, sucks all the excitement and allure out of what should be an exhilarating experience.
Could it have something to do with the fact that New Yorkers are so used to sensory overload that they need their minds blown constantly? Maybe it’s that New Yorkers are accustomed to getting what they want, whenever they want it, so they forgot how to compromise a little. It’s like a big dog park, everyone is running all over the city sniffing each other’s butts, mounting whoever they want, it’s nuts.
It’s especially difficult for the women in New York because we noticeably out number the straight men, now factor in the married ones and the douche bags, and you got like four men in the whole city to vie for. Not to mention that most of the women in this city are gorgeous, young and smart so the competition is fierce. I feel like it’s easier for two people to find each other in a place where there’s not so much stimulation. A place where there’s not so many options. Like if you lived in Dinkytown, MN (real place) you’d pick one of the two best looking people with all their teeth and you’d make it work. And who’s to say those two aren’t going to be as happy as someone who is searching the planet for perfection?
Who knows what it is, I’m just speculating. Maybe there’s too many people in this city so it takes more time to find your soul mate. Maybe New Yorkers aren’t the settling down type, maybe they’re addicted to the thrill of the chase and don’t even realize it.
But I do know this; there is nothing more beautiful in this world than loving a partner with all of your heart, and everyone deserves to do that.